My mother and step-father were drinkers, thus I was allowed to taste their various drinks at an early age. It was the same for my younger brother and sister.
On my father’s side of the family, they were businesspeople and were natural drinkers and attended social events regularly. As my Grandmother Tiedemann would say, when it got close to dinner it was time to “shake them up.”
On my mother’s side of the family, there was little if any alcohol allowed in the house. As a child she wasn’t introduced to any alcohol at home. As she aged, she started drinking outside of the home.
I was thinking of these things recently when I read the article “Should You Let Your Kids Try Wine?” posted online by Mike Steinberger. In the article he reveals the research of Dr. George Vaillant concerning alcoholism. In a study, Dr. Vaillant compared the backgrounds of men in the Boston area who were in both alcoholic and non-alcoholic environments. His research found that men who grew up in households where alcohol wasn’t allowed were seven times more likely to become alcoholics than men who grew up where alcohol was prevalent in their homes.
Unfortunately, in my family we have had several people suffer from alcoholism. My mother and my daughter Elizabeth. My mother suffered with alcoholism throughout her later years and until the day she passed away. My daughter Elizabeth determined on her own that she was abusing alcohol and took it upon herself to stop drinking. She has been sober for more than seven years. She attended AA meetings but did not find it very helpful for her and continues on her own day by day. I am very proud of her.
My children were always allowed to taste a drink in our home. We hoped we were teaching them to use alcohol responsibly. I do know that my kids drank excessively in their teenage years and as younger adults, as many do when they start to grow up.
Our grandson Adler has tasted the big full-bodied wine I make in honor of him for being such a tough cancer kid. The wine is named Adler’s Blend, but he is not a fan of it. Right now, he’s just happy to have the wine named after him and have his art on display on the back label. I am also in the process of producing a new wine named after my 22-year-old grandson, Noah Tiedemann. This wine will be called Noah’s Cabernet Franc. Time will tell if he wants to drink the wine. I do know Noah drinks socially with his friends.
I think it is a parent’s responsibility to teach their children to drink responsibly. And I think it’s okay to give them small sips of your wines or other drinks. I even think that at certain ages, to be determined by the parents, children can have a “small” glass of wine at dinner. I believe this experience will help them learn to be responsible drinkers.
If you expect your children to drink reasonably you must set the example. I have a very dear friend with whom I have dinner and drinks with every six weeks or so. At one of those dinners, he had too much to drink and drove home that evening. In the morning he gathered his three children and his wife and apologized for his behavior. We now have new dinner consumption rules when we meet. Everyone who drinks regularly should have these types of rules.
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Upcoming Wine Events For 2021
7/16/21 July Wine Dinner featuring music by Checkmark Sallie – BUY YOUR TICKETS HERE
This Southern-Inspired Wine Dinner will also feature live music by Checkmark Sallie. The event begins at 6:00 pm with dinner starting at 6:30 pm. Cost is $100 per person. Here is the menu:
Reception: Passed hors d’oeuvres. Paired with an assortment of different wine options.
First Course: She-crab bisque, oloroso sherry, old bay rice croutons
Second Course: Lightly blackened Atlantic grouper, smoked bacon and heirloom tomato succotash, pea shoots, lemon thyme beurre blanc
Third Course: Grilled quail, dirty rice stuffing, Andouille spoonbread, wilted greens, pepper jelly gastric
Fourth Course: Warm beignets, powdered sugar, chicory ganache
Guests must be at least 21 years of age, with a valid ID and you must purchase your ticket by noon on Friday, July 9th.
7/30/21 Wine Talk & Taste Event – BUY YOUR TICKETS HERE – $30 per person
8/13/21 August Wine Dinner featuring music by Jesse’s Gurl
8/27/21 Wine Talk & Taste Event
9/10/21 September Wine Dinner featuring music by Julia James
9/24/21 Wine Talk & Taste Event
10/5/21 Oktoberfest Dinner with Iechyd Da Brewing Co. with music by Patti Lightfoot
10/22/21 Wine Talk & Taste Event
11/5/21 November Wine Dinner featuring music by Checkmark Sallie
11/19/21 Wine Talk & Taste Event